May 18th, 2005
|06:32 pm - [Filtered from Tomas] Watching and waiting...|
I've spent the last week at the hospital after my visit to Aspen was cut short by a phone call from Tomas. Peygan collapsed last Monday, and was rushed to hosptial after suffering a massive heart attack.
He's been unconscious for the most part, since he was admitted, except for twice when he opened his eyes, smiled at us, and then closed them again.
He's growing weaker, and I'm scared he's not going to recover.
I've already watched one father die, I don't know if I have the strength to do it again.
I'm also worried about Tomas. Peygan has been more of a father to him than an uncle, taking him and his mother in after his father died, and then providing comfort for Tomas when his mother passed away a few years later.
He's very quiet, and I know he's trying to be strong but I'm not sure how long he can keep doing this. I might try to get him away from the hospital for an hour or so, just to get him to open up and talk, but I worry that if I do and something happens while we are gone, neither of us would ever forgive ourselves.
Current Mood: worried
*hugs* Peygan will be in my thoughts, I hope he recovers soon.
As for Tomas, maybe he needs to struggle silently. Whatever happens, I think it'll be enough if you're there for him even if he's not saying anything. *smiles encouragingly* Besides, you must be some authority over silent men, after all, you're friends with Trowa and Heero! They may not be so quiet now but they were once! *squeezes her hand*
*Hugs* Thank you :) I appreciate it.
Thank you too for your words regarding Tomas, but I can't help but think that this silence is not good, that he's retreating into himself in an attempt to cope.
I'm afraid I'm no authority on 'silent men'. I've never found Heero and Trowa to be silent. They both have plenty to say when they wish to.
I'm sorry about what happened with Peygan...I hope he recovers soon. *hugs for both of you*
And though I personally never know what to say to someone when their greiving, it seems like sometimes the best thing is to remind them that you're there for them. That they can trust you, lean on you, you'll hold them if they need it, and that you'll just keep providing suppport. And while Tomas might intellectually know that, sometimes remind people.
*hugs again* And on that note, a here's a reminder that we'll listen and do our best to comfort you as well!
*Hugs* Thank you :) I appreciate your support.
Peygan is steadily growing weaker. He hasn't been conscious since I wrote the post. *sigh*
Thanks for your advice. It's really the only thing I can do for Tomas. I just hope it's enough.
|Date:||May 18th, 2005 02:37 pm (UTC)|| |
I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope Peygan recovers soon.
As for Tomas, different people handle grief in different ways. My stepdad just kind of shuts down, and if you try to talk to him, he'll insist that he's fine and change the subject, or just leave. He needs to be able to process things on his own terms. The most you can do is to let him know that you're there when and if you need him, and then try not to disturb him too much. Maybe Tomas is like that.
Meantime, don't forget to take care of yourself, not just your loved ones. This has to be draining on you, too.
Thank you :)
I hope Peygan recovers soon too, but he appears to be getting worse not better. I'm afraid I'm not holding out much hope.
Sorry to hear about Peygan. I'll be thinking good thoughts for him.
I agree with what everyone else has said about Tomas. Let him know you are there for him when he is ready to talk and let him work through it. Make sure he keeps eating and sleeping regularly.
Thank you :)
Tomas isn't eating or sleeping properly, although he keeps insisting that he is okay. I'm worried about both of them.
I hope they'll both be ok.
Thank you. So do I.
Frankly, I'm bad with this kind of advice, and everyone else has given away the best suggestions anyway.
Sooo...pass on my best wishes to Peygan. And take care of yourself, and remind Tomas to do the same. It won't do Peygan any good or make him heal any faster to have you all worrying yourselves sick. *hugs*
Thank you. *Hugs*
I appreciate the well wishes, but Peygan hasn't been conscious since I wrote my original post. We're talking to him, but I'm not sure he can even hear us.
I'll worry about myself later. I don't have the energy at the moment.
Relena, Quatre and I can be there by tomorrow afternoon. We'll call you from the shuttle for directions to the hospital.
Thank you, Trowa. *Hugs* I truly appreciate your support. *manages a shaky smile*
I look forward to seeing you both.